Giving and receiving kindness is an essential way we as humans draw from our inner goodness and positively connect with others.

We can be kind to literally anyone at any time, extending our connections far beyond our individual networks of family, friends, pets, acquaintances, etc.

Being kind is a demonstration of care, of saying “you matter.” Life can be enhanced, even transformed, when it features giving and receiving of kind words and acts, especially when motivated by recognition of our shared humanity and innate worthiness, rather than pity. Kindness can benefit both the giver and receiver, allowing for mutual support, respect and nurturing. 

Here are a few prompts to contemplate the power of kindness in your life:

Think about your personal experience of kindness, both given and received.

When was the last time you were kind to someone? Describe.

• Why were you kind to this person in this situation?
• How did it feel to act kindly, in your body and mind?
• Are you aware of how the kindness impacted the receiver? If so, describe.
• How does knowing or not knowing the impact of your kindness on others affect your tendency to be intentionally kind?

When was the last time someone was kind to you? Describe.

• What was its impact on you, body and mind?
• What might you do or say to express your gratitude for their kindness?
• How might expressing gratitude for a kindness you receive affect you? How might it affect the giver?

What was one of the kindest things someone has done for you? Describe.

• Why was it so memorable? How did it impact you?

Describe the kindest act you have witnessed. 

• What stayed with you about this act?

Think about people in your life who are consistently kind.

• What role do/did they have in your life? How did their kindness affect you?

Think about people in your life whom you try to be kind to.

• What motivates you to be kind to them?
• How do they receive your kindness?
• Does the matter in which they receive your kindness influence the likelihood of being kind to them again?
• Are you aware of the impact of your kindness on them? If yes, describe.
• How does being kind to them affect you?

How do you think kindness connects to compassion and gratitude, both given and received? 

Mindfully recognizing kindness in your life, both given and received, and exploring its effects can give give you more self-awareness and ability to intentionally speak and act in ways that fit with your values. And, when your words and actions align with your values, there is more possibility for self-contentment and peace of mind.

Written by Kristin Littel

Related: Also see our article on Metta Meditation. Loving-kindness meditation, also referred to as metta meditation, is a tool to cultivate goodwill towards yourself and others.